Parenting Gone wrong should not be dent on your ego. When parenting fails and a parent-child relationship hangs in balance as a result of neglect and disappointment, the ideal solution is embracing accountability, this means owning your actions, learning from mistakes, and striving for growth. It's about being transparent, reliable, and responsible. By holding yourself and others accountable, you build trust, foster integrity, and achieve greater success in all areas of life.

On the contrary, the people who should be held accountable for giving children bruised childhood memories hold no accountability. In their defense, they say things such as heavily weaponized and overused the word. But how do Children forgive these attitudes and give grace without it?. Are their emotions not valid, I asked?

In this context, I am assuming the defensiveness is stemming from guilt of failure. But vulnerability is strength. Once you verbalise it , that is a safe space to your journey of healing.

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation where someone makes you question your own perception or sanity. If those responsible for your bruised childhood memories are denying accountability and instead accusing you of misremembering, that could indeed be a form of gaslighting.
Minimizing or trivializing your feelings is not good enough for you in such vulnerable moments.

Correct me if I am wrong, but sometimes I reflect on how our deep desire to be understood can ironically lead us to forget the value of being understanding.
I am at a point where I want to use vulnerability as a weapon by verbalising how I feel . I consider it as the path to healing and discovery.

When a parent or parents fail at parental responsibility, it is healthier to admit and ask for forgiveness. Quickly ask how to correct your wrongs and work on it. Because without realising it you are diminishing their feelings and invalidating.
To bo responsible for another person is a daunting task. No one is a super human we all have breaking points. Be present and also earn trust and respect the right way.

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Leaving bruises memories and unresolved disputes most often result in resentment. Overcome the barriers of communication. Gentle parenting does not make you weak. Show compassion and envision the childhoods you never had.
Children may not remember all the toys and special events from their past, but like a portrait they will always remember how you made them feel.

Healthy parenting raises healthy children.